Feeling stuck is one of the themes in my life because I suffer from analysis paralysis often. I get bogged down with the “what-if’s”, and get overwhelmed with the time I have to take action. I don’t like feeling stuck, but I’m always pushing and pursuing inside my head which keeps the physical part of my goals from moving >>> leaving me constantly spinning my wheels (feet). I want to live un-stuck because that really means that I’m living in the present! And what better time?? I may not have the chance to live in any other moment.
I don’t know who needs to read this, but I know if I’ve struggled in this area >> somebody else has/is too, and you need to know that if you’re feeling stuck, you can live un-stuck.
What to do about it
First, take a moment to really think about what is making you feel aggravated with where you are in life. This seems obvious, but often times people can blame external circumstances like ” I don’t have enough time in the day,” or “I’m just not good at XYZ “, etc. on why they haven’t been successful at the thing they are wanting to accomplish or feel inferior with where there life has placed them currently.
I also want to insert here, that really doing work on your feelings can bring to light subconscious issues that are triggering your stuck-ness. (<<< I like using descriptive words, even if they aren’t real, haha!) Maybe you don’t like your job, or maybe your relationship isn’t very healthy at the moment, or you could be confused with what you believe in, or have reservations about plans that are already in motion, or overwhelmed with the possibility of succeeding at a dream, or not ever realizing your dreams in the end. The trigger can be more than what’s on the surface, dig deeper.
Here is a simple mental path to take when overwhelm is well, overwhelming:
- TAKE A DEEP BREATH!
- Say a prayer for God to help you be present, right now, and focus on doing the best you can for Him and yourself today, in this moment.
- Breakdown what the thing is that’s triggering you to feel like you aren’t living up to an expectation >>>> now, once you know that thing, think WHY? Is it a time issue, resource issue, failure, unqualified…..whatever the why is DEBUNK IT!
- Speak affirmations over your life, your choices, and how you are going to move FORWARD. You are NOT in control of the future, but you are in control of what you are doing right now. FEAR is not productive. So stop, qualify why, and then speak life over the struggle.
- Do ONE thing to move towards making a change. Each step/action in faith WILL result in change, results aside. Results DON’T matter, movement DOES!
Now, the first 4 steps will help stop the negativity from spiraling, but you must complete step 5 to turn the negative into positive ACTION. Action that will set in motion getting UN-stuck.
The Gift of Un-Stuck
Feeling stuck is life sucking and it can ultimately lead to making every area of your life a challenge. This is what we want to avoid. Negative emotions have an easy way of escalating, so let’s keep that from happening.
A great perspective I was given from a personal development book gave me the mindset that I am not in control >>> GOD IS! This is FREEDOM in my book, because no matter what choices I make, His plans are going to take place. BUT, what is in my control is living with God at the center, which will bring to my life more joy and opportunity than any plan I could ever devise. My single job is to take action! No matter how big or small action is imperative, I have to be present the best that I can, AND respond to the opportunities presented to me. I don’t care who you are, there have been unexplained moments that have led you to make a choice, think about something creatively, change a habit, research an idea further, etc. >>> that’s God, RESPOND to Him!
The other truth that always gives me strength and ambition is that God made each of us with a unique set of skills. What does this mean?? NOTHING can qualify me or DISqualify me from living a life out in faith and pursuing Christ each day in whatever way He presents experiences to me. I am qualified because He is leading my steps! Make sense?
BE FREE!!!!!!! Be free in knowing that where you may fall short, He will excel. He wants us to live out our faith in Him, how can we do that if fear is leading our actions instead? And fear, is the root of being “stuck”.
Therefore, GET RID OF FEAR!
We each have a purpose, and a calling to live out while we are on this earth. We can’t live in the life God has available to us, if we are operating from fear. Life isn’t meant to be easy, I can guarantee that it won’t…but it IS meant to help us become better. And for every trail I’ve been through, God has given me more goodness in return.
You don’t have to live stuck, TAKE ACTION and move forward with intention. Life is beautiful! Now, get to moving!