Find Your Calling, You Have To Know This First
To find your calling you need to be one thing for certain, OPEN.
Listen, we may think that we have life figured out. We may even have a 1/5/10 year plan for ourselves, but if there is one thing I’ve absolutely grown expert in it’s trashing my ideas.
The only thing that has been concrete in life is my love of God. And because of that, I’ve had to come to terms that I don’t know what’s best for me. He does.
This hasn’t been any easy concept for me. Hell, I still fight it on occasion. There have been many moments that I’ve declared myself clear on certain topics, only for God to completely turn my heart in the opposite direction. Some of these declarations included that I wasn’t going to have children, I was going to be a pharmacist, and that I was going to live in NYC for two years after college. Those seem like such RANDOM nuances, but at the time those were part of my “plans”.
As my life played out and I discovered what was important and interesting to me, my life really took a different shape. Subjects at college that I once really loved and excelled at (i.e. science), really started to lose my interest, and I could tell that God was posturing my heart in a different way. And that seems to be the same story for the rest of those declarations.
Finding the perfect fit is an ambitious (albeit lofty) dream, but one that keeps us propelling forward. Plans are needed, but understanding what path to be on to get to the end, can change often.
Insert, OPENESS. Open to His provision, direction, and timing.
How Do You Know If You’ve Found Your Calling
Well you SHOULD NOT feel like what I explain in this post.
If you find yourself content, flourishing, and regularly challenged, I’d say you’re in the right spot (for now). Don’t get caught up questioning yourself or circumstances. If things are working cohesively, enjoy the ride! So many people can get caught up in the comparison game, and either feel inferior (like their positions aren’t as impressive as others) or inadequate because what you’ve found interests you doesn’t completely align with what you had initially envisioned (this was/is me!).
There are WAY FEWER people I know that have jobs directly related to their degrees, than those that have careers in fields completely unrelated to what they went to school for.
Millennials typically do not have the same job from graduation to retirement. Those days are over. Sure there are exceptions, but by and large, people don’t know exactly what they want, and there are so many options out there. Entrepreneurship is a degree for goodness sake, isn’t that the definition of no direct path.
You never know what God has in store for you, so if you’re learning, enjoying yourself, and looking forward to Monday…embrace it!
Now, if those descriptors do not resonate with your life…you may need to do an evaluation. We only live once, and we should be living this one shot with BOLD INTENTION!
Finding Your Calling With Simple Steps:
- Take an inventory – This can be accomplished in several ways.
- Take personality identifiers (i.e. Myers Briggs, Strength Finders, etc). This book has an AWESOME analysis (affiliate link) of many personality type assessments, and phenomenal “cliff note” breakdowns of them. By taking these assessments, your strengths, weaknesses, and interests can become more clear. By knowing what you innately gravitate towards, you can have a better understanding of what types of activities bring more fulfillment.
- Write down key areas of your life (i.e. family, job, finances, faith, social activity, health) and rate them on a scale of 1-10 (1- not satisfied, 10- very satisfied). Once you’ve rated how you feel currently in each area, write down the two that have the lowest scores. The areas with the lowest scores should be a focus of where to make changes.
- Decide what actions you can take to immediately improve your daily life. By weeding out time sucks and incorporating better matches for your interests, you can hone in on what primary time should be spent doing.
- Try on different shoes – (not actual shoes) DON’T BE AFRAID to try more than one avenue. Give yourself the chance to try things out. Give yourself grace. Take a position that sounds intriguing even if it doesn’t check every single box. Nothing is permanent, you have control to quit! It’s rare to find that thing that aligns all your skills, talents, and excitement in one shot. Be flexible!
- Do the research – You can find out a lot about a company and types of positions online. There is a wealth of knowledge out there! Talk to friends/family and read reviews. Plus, if you can do some research before spending $$$ (those dolla dolla bills y’all) on schooling, that’s major! There are some degrees and licenses for jobs that you may not even knew existed that would fit your personality so much more than the typical ones. TAKE YOUR TIME!
- Let go of expectations- This is a BIG ONE! Expectations that you inevitably put on your own shoulders and those from the ones who hold a lot of influence in your decision making, can become HUGE hindrances to finding peace. You shouldn’t be going to a job that makes you feel like a square peg in a round hole. SURE, every day is not going to be a perfect demonstration of all you can offer the world, BUT there should be more world shaping days than not. Don’t let expectations keep you in a job that doesn’t fit, or tied to an idea you had dreamed would play out. If you are feeling this way, GET OUT A.S.A.P. and find your calling!
- See the big picture – Write down the “must haves” for your life and work backwards. What are the non-negotiables? This may seem a little counter intuitive from the statement above of being OPEN. But, roll with me for a moment. Think about what you know you’ll wish you will have done by the time you are sixty. Do you want a family? Do you want to travel a lot and see other cultures? Do you want to move around and live in many places? And transversely, what would you regret at sixty? These are preferences that CAN CHANGE, but they give you insight into what you value right now. This is an easier way to think about what you prioritize and will provide you with a framework for looking into pathways for you to take. For example, if you would like to live in several places, than you probably would like a job that offers flexibility in locations to choose from and/or travel, etc.
Don’t be complacent. Find your calling.
There are so many opportunities in the world. And if you can’t find one that already exists, you can create one for yourself. Today, we are not bound by geography, or lack of education. We can learn anything we chose and serve people from around the world!
Don’t waste time being stuck! You can find your calling, just be open!
Please comment your thoughts about this and how you found what matches your personality!
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