I am a Christian, so this post will be coming from the perspective of my personal relationship with Christ. I want to talk about the importance our spiritual life has on our well being, and why this element to who we are should be prioritized.
Today, life is very busy and the expectations we have on ourselves and others are usually centered around our own ambitions and goals. There is NOTHING wrong with having goals, plans, dreams, things to do…. but, often we are so distracted by ALLLL of that, we fail to make priority our relationship with Christ because it’s easy to believe we will take the time later to pray, or read our Bible tomorrow. Those tasks seem more amiable than others.
I’ve found however, that when I have taken that mindset >> I’m much more morose, lost, aggravated, and overall OVERWHELMED by life. When I give myself a pass for putting off my focus on Christ FIRST, everything seems to struggle.
What To Do Daily
I’ve dreamed, planned, had the best laid intentions to do lofty Bible studies, host group studies, and incorporate deep studies into my daily life. At times, these work >>> but I’ve been in a LOONG season of simply surviving.
I used to get so overwhelmed with my ideas that I would then just get paralyzed from shear exhaustion thinking about the energy it would require to expend. This is when I had a revelation!
Life with Christ is not meant to be a chore >>>> HELLO!!!
It’s a gift, and it can look thousands of ways. The only single requirement is that I build my relationship with Him every day. Sure, I can host Bible study groups, commit to a deep exegesis of the Word, or whatever else that sounds fun ….. but I don’t have to do that. Christ simply wants me to come to Him and give him the attention He deserves from me. He doesn’t need me to, but He does want me to.
Just like my earthly father, God wants to spend time with me. And, when I do, I’m better for it. We all want to be loved, to be known, to be cared for… it’s part of our very existence >>> we NEED community.
How To Make It Happen
Here are simple ways to incorporate time with Christ each and every day:
- Wake up earlier than you have to – don’t just give yourself enough time to get ready in the morning, even waking 10 min prior will give you good time to read a devotional, pray, and set your intentions for the day. Those 10 minutes will probably be the best minutes of your day.
- Incorporate praying into daily activities – in the car is where I personally pray a lot (sometimes from my anxiety of being in the car, haha) because its always been a place where I easily dream, think of ideas, contemplate the day, and all of those normally naturally lead to me praying. Another common time is before meals, or before bed. When we have a routine of praying, sometimes it can make us robotic in our time with Christ, so be mindful of that. If we are intentional with our words/thoughts, that’s all that matters!
- Keep materials in plain sight – keep your Bible on your nightstand, your devotional on the coffee table, etc. If you have a favorite place you like to sit in your house, have a little table or basket close by where you can keep those things.
- Established times – for myself, this became a more serious thing once we had children. Before, it was easy to incorporate bible study, church, small group, reading, praying just however it happened, but with kids, I have to be intentional. And this goes further into family dynamics, such as having a standing evening routine of reading together or doing a Bible study as a family, etc. Church on Sunday morning alone is not enough to establish a certain legacy for your family. It actually needs to be a component to how your family operates, like having dinner together, or helping around the house, it all has to be an important element. As the children get older, this may take different shapes, but I believe it should be so ingrained in the family dynamic, that there is never a question. For example, they know to not make plans with their friends Tuesday evening from x to y time because they need to be home for that time together as a family. It doesn’t need to be legalistic by any means, and of course there may be exceptions, but it should be an understood part to family life. It’s with that positive structure that relationships are built, maintained, and flourish.
In the Right Context
Prioritizing spiritual balance in life is critical. Think about the amount of time work, school, playing sports, etc. takes out of our days… spending time with God should be at the same level. I see families that give up all “free time” to cart their kids to practice after practice or game after game… they live out of the car and spend a lot of time apart if there is more than one child with commitments. Or, people who commit to hours in the gym to work on their fitness, whether its hours before work or after, with ZERO exceptions. NO JUDGEMENT HERE >> merely pointing out the level at which we can commit ourselves to things. We do have the time, it just depends what we do with it.
We have to be the gate-keepers for ourselves, and our families. Talking and setting expectations really matter in this situation. Having a plan and goals is what makes living out for Christ a reality individually and as a family.
Life is about balance, and there will never be perfect levels of each part >>> however, it is important for us to try each day to do the best we can.
When we have a healthy relationship with God, all else can flow easier, and the hard times are dealt with better. When we are living with Christ first, we are able to feel purposeful with our time, and we find contentment easier because love and joy ultimately come from him.