Just wanted to give a shout out to those whom my husband refers to as DINKS (dual income, no kids). I’m sure you receive the comments from family, church members, friends, colleagues, and maybe random strangers referencing the obvious factor in your life of having zero children. At this point, my husband and I find a TON of humor out of the whole thing. Why?? Because it is funny…
Sometimes we monologue to each other when we exit from one of those expected moments with what they are really thinking in their heads… “Lucky”, “They don’t know REAL love”, “They are so selfish”, “They will be so old when their kids are in school”, “I wander if they just can’t get pregnant”, “I bet they fight about it”, “Join us”, “I guess they just don’t like kids” and tons more maybe not so appropriate to share (hehehe).
Here’s the deal, as what may come as a TOTAL shocker…we DON’T really talk about it all that much. We’ve never made a master plan or time line for big things like children. I guess we are just…living?? We enjoy our life right now…marching to the beat of our own drum, enjoying the freedom of our own schedules, the random trips we take, the TONS of date nights we have, free time, waking up with no agenda, going to bed when we want, working hard at our careers ( and even thinking of new ways to work/have other hobbies), & the list could go on. For us we just like being the age we are and enjoying the blessings that God has provided. We aren’t fixated on keeping up with everyone else.
With that being said, we have so enjoyed the majority of our friends having kids and stepping into the roles of surrogate Aunt/Uncle. I LOVE babies!!! Being the oldest child in my family (& oldest cousin), I have always been around kids; and yes, I daydream about my own and really look forward to that day. But right now, I’m happy where I am. Adam and I really believe in allowing Christ to lead us in the direction HE wants us to go. And although we may not talk about a specific timeline together, we are both praying for God to dictate when that time should be. And when it comes, it will be an AWESOME time! I so look forward to embarking on that journey with Adam (I know he will make a wonderful dad). And it will be a journey because there are so many outcomes like infertility, miscarriages, pregnancy struggles, labor problems, and others. We hope to both be ready to even start that journey, with God directing that timing, so that we are able to handle any of those situations in the right frame of mind that may come even trying to make the step into parenthood. The time we have now as a married couple is so finite. Children are FOREVER people! We will never be this young again with the chance to experience so much, and enjoy our hard work with so little responsibility (in the grand scheme of everything).
SO, be encouraged DINKS! Don’t feel weird about not having kids right now, don’t be annoyed when people ask (people are nosy!), find the humor in it, and relish in your freedom!
Side Note: This is NOT meant to offend those with kids, just want to let those without know there are others out there like them 🙂